Forgiveness Does Not Mean Reconciliation

VP of American Association of Christian Counselors Features 'Motorhome Prophecies' on 'Built Different' Podcast

In my recent conversation with The Built Different Podcast, I shared with host Zach Clinton, M.A. (Clinical Mental Health Counseling), how I see the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation.

Forgiveness is a unilateral act—scientifically proven to benefit your mental health—based on godly mandates, such as those taught by Jesus. Reconciliation, on the other hand, is a process that requires changes from the abuser and is not always guaranteed. Sometimes, it is necessary to forgive without reconciling, especially if the other person continues to cause pain. In my experience, setting boundaries is crucial for self-protection and breaking generational cycles of abuse.

I also shared my personal journey towards spirituality and how I found God. For a time, I tried to fill the void in my life with professional achievements, relationships, and politics, but it was through Christianity that I found a true connection with God. I learned that the correct divine order is to put God first, followed by people, and then things.

For those facing difficulties, I offer a message of hope. I encourage reflection on self-sabotage and past wounds, distinguishing between pain caused by others and self-inflicted pain.

Instead of obsessively dwelling on the hurt—which leads to recreating more hurt—it is crucial to seek the redemption and healing that God offers.

In Faith,

Carrie